Women reach the peak of their beauty at the age of 31:
Well, I don’t claim it! researchers found it.
My 20s were full of experiences, and the thing I am truly grateful for is how I let myself be in different situations and experience them all even though some of them turned out to be big failures, but I always ask myself what if you didn’t do all of that? And my response is: I couldn’t be the person I am today and here I want to share some of these experiences and life lessons that I learned in my 20s with you:
1- Nothing is permanent in this world, not even you.
This is one of the deepest philosophies of life. It is very weird when I look back on my life, I’m witnessing that I am a whole new woman in comparison with that little girl I was in my 20s, and it doesn’t mean that all of you will experience a tremendous change, I still have those good values that I was grown up with, but life shows you how fragile your beliefs are especially if you don’t have good reasons for them, reasons based on truth, So this is so tricky whenever you want to discuss with people you need to take a moment and only observe the situation with no judgment at all, and it doesn’t necessarily change your beliefs but it helps you accept that there are different people with different opinions and you don’t have to be like them or you don’t have to change your mind or even support them but you will learn how to deal with others without ignoring them.
2- You lose friends but you will make better friendships
This is something that still makes me so sad! When it comes to friendship, Everyone knows that I am such a loyal potato, most of my friends are my childhood friends, as I said people change, you change and sometimes you have to part ways and that friendship doesn’t work anymore. This is mournful but it doesn’t mean that you can not make new friends, some people say that when you grow older you will have fewer friends and you can say that again, but it doesn’t mean that you will never experience deep friendships with new people, on the contrary, I believe that as long as you are getting more mature you will be more aware of who exactly you are and what you truly want in a relationship, and It helps you a lot on investing your time and energy in meaningful friendships and better relationships and at the end of the day, you are going to be okay.
3- You need to sacrifice time and energy
Unpopular idea: your 20s are the best decade of your life to experience, learn, study and work, and I am not here to argue for a balanced lifestyle!
Let me tell you about my experience: I was 19 when I was a freshman student and just after the first semester I got my first part-time job. I was a university student working 4-5 days as a part-time English teacher, I am a swimmer (perhaps you didn’t know that) so I went swimming once or twice a week, I took French classes on Fridays and for the rest of the weekend I was usually on short trips with my friends or I went to parties… Such a long journey! I know and I can’t even imagine having that lifestyle again even though I have a very busy life right now, but I have no idea where that energy came from. The question is: Do I regret it? absolutely not!
I had this chance to meet so many different people on those trips and gatherings, make really good acquaintances which ended me up in lifetime friendships. I was lucky enough to learn a lot in my 20s, from studying in business-related fields which let me be in professional work environments for 10 years now, to almost any skill I learned was mainly in my 20s, and now at the beginning of my 30s, they are benefiting my life!
4- Speak up for yourself
There are moments in life when you find yourself all alone, no one reaches a hand to help, and no one endangers herself to save you. I don’t think this one is limited to any age but the first time you deeply feel it is in your 20s when others are very busy to even listen to you. I know it sounds cliche but the sooner you feel and understand that every human being on this planet is alone and feel that fear that you are all on your own, the better you will be aware that you must be there for no one but yourself.
Courage comes with acceptance, so instead of being in fear and doubts it’s better to have your own back, then you’ll see how it is going to help you to live the life you deserve.
5– You will never be younger but you will be wiser
When I was 28 I was terrified, even thinking of turning 30s and not being young anymore scares me so much, it was a very depressing concept but it doesn’t even matter to me anymore because right now I feel confident and courageous more than ever!
Aging is a natural phenomenon in this world and no one can stop it, why do we waste our time worrying about something that we can not control? Well, it is said that women in their 30s are at the prettiest decades of their age, so why not cheer for these fantastic years ahead?
And in terms of confidence! Well, nothing can stop a thirty-something-year-old woman who has already made up her mind! In your late 20s, you will become more and more confident, decisive and if you have enough good experiences you will become wiser, and that is the essential motivator you need to see what you truly want in your life, what your career goals are, or do you want to have a family? Do you want to have kids?
One wise woman is the gift that the universe gives us in our 30s. Enjoy it.
Shaghayegh Rezaei
